One of the most important and stressful parts of planning a wedding is not picking a date, a venue or even a groom...it's picking that group of ladies that will stand next to you on the most important day of your life to date. We understand the stress that comes along with this task and the emotions involved...but please (PLEASE) don't give "important jobs" to your friends that you yourself wouldn't want to do.
Here is where the problem comes into play: you have "too many girls" that you feel obligated to invite as part of your wedding party...but your groom is set that he is only going to have his 4 best friends as his groomsmen. Which means you now have to cut your bridal down by 5-7 people (what? that's a realistic amount, right?)Then you make the ever so wise decision to add 4 hostesses, 1 mistress of ceremonies, 1 program passer-outter and a guest book attendant.
Here is the problem, your "non-bridesmaid" friends know they are "second best" and didn't "make the bridesmaids cut" and don't want to insult you by saying "no"...but trust me, they'd like to pass on this great opportunity. If you'd like to honor these ladies, don't have them setting up your centerpieces and telling guests where to sit...Instead, honor your friends...with a handwritten note telling them how much they mean to you, flowers at your ceremony/reception in their honor, or a special note in your program. Something unexpected is better than "second best"...
Think About It.
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Keith Cephus Photography.
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